The effects of stress on our health are well documented. Knowing how bad stress is for our health is one thing, what we do to manage or minimise stress is another. I am guilty of it myself, I can be an absolute masochist in my personal life, am often better at taking care of others than taking care of myself and notoriously bad at slowing down or taking much needed breaks. I am definitely getting better at it, but strange as it sounds to say, it takes work. What does that work look like? Simple things like setting boundaries, when I am available, when I am not, what my contact hours are and time that I switch off and take personal time. Doing things that I enjoy and find fulfilling in my personal time- long walks in nature with my dog, getting massages, getting manicures and pedicures, even something as simple as enjoying a quiet cup of coffee at my favourite local café. It can be bigger things like spending time with family, going to concerts, BDSM events and workshops, festivals or AFL games. Whatever it is that brings you joy and refills your cup, whatever that may be.
So where do massage and orgasms come into this? The beauty of this is how simple and primal it is. We carry stress and tension in our bodies, from our muscles, to our brains, to our stomachs. It can affect us in so many ways, everyone is different. Massage is a fantastic way to release stress and tension from wherever we are carrying it. A time to literally lie down, breathe and have someone gently knead away all those knots. Float away as someone transports you away from all that stress in a serene and cosy space. The science of it is simple and irrefutable, massage helps produce and release dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin. These three hormones boost positive feelings and relieve stress. Sometimes the simple and scientific way is the best way. Science aside, I will speak from personal experience, of both giving and receiving massages. The magical feeling of my oiled up hands and skin pressed against someone and feeling them melt into my milking table. Breath slowing, mind emptying, completely forgetting the worries of the outside world for the time they are in my presence. It never gets old, I always love it. Having people lie down on my table and surrender all control to me and let me work my magic on them. I love to carve out time for myself and get massages too. I have a few favourite places, and love nothing more than booking ahead, arriving, undressing, lying down covered in a towel and floating away as the massage therapist kneads all my sore, tight muscles. Closing my eyes, focussing on my breath and letting go.
The beauty of erotic massage on my milking table? You get to lie down and receive! So often people- especially men- think they have to be proactive and check off a sexual list. Lying down, letting go and allowing someone else to take control can be challenging. Embrace it! Enjoy it. It may even open up a more adventurous side to you, a side where you get to discover the joys of relinquishing control and discover other aspects of power
play you enjoy. Perhaps the introduction of a blind fold one day, some restraints or ropes another day. It can be a magical journey of self discovery, and who better than someone as experienced, skilled and talented as a professional to guide you on that journey?
The beauty of erotic massage is *all* parts of you get attention- bringing us to the spectacular climax, your orgasm. Another part of the massage that can be played with in so many ways, if you want to play with those ways. From edging, teasing, things that can heighten your orgasm and so much more. Ultimately orgasms release two of hormones released by massage, dopamine and oxytocin, so you get an extra dose of those wonderful happy hormones when you have an erotic massage.
So now, all you need to do is reserve some Sparkly Space and experience the wonders yourself.